Mini disclaimer: Today’s blog post may come across to some of you as rambling and all over the place, because my thoughts are definitely all over the place on this topic. So, please bear with me. Thanks!
Big greetings to all of my friends! Hope you are well and happy!
As the headline states – is dealing with other people driving us insane, to utter madness?
I am writing this post, because of all of my DECADES of dealing with human beings. I know I am focusing on my negative experiences, such as dealing with the overly religious people, the people who were mean to me and who tried to bully me and belittle me, and the human beings I had to act a certain way around or say certain things to. It was soooooo tiring. I am absolutely tired of it. This is why I desire to be alone more and more. I even have a desire to live away from people out in the country somewhere. And I NEVER thought I would feel that way. I just feel now that people are in my way. I even go to the grocery early in the morning to avoid the crowds. And yes, I even take social media breaks. And that is okay!
People – earthlings – or “earth things” as I like to laughingly refer to them, can be EXTREMELY complicated. Simple yet complicated at the same time because of emotions and belief systems and their underlying “stuff” or “baggage” that all of us come with. It can be VERY arduous to handle.
So many different personalities to deal with on a daily basis. So many different ideologies. Different energies emanating from different people. It can be so mentally draining and such a mindblower. But I suppose the world would be boring if everyone was the same. However, sometimes at the end of the day after dealing with all of the people madness, you just wish to be alone and chill. (And no wonder so many people prefer animals/pets to other people)!
But speaking of different energies, I firmly believe that you can tune into the vast energies of others. It happens all the time. Some people may be very happy when you see them. Others can be very sad or depressed. Others angry. Others just simply blah. I can almost tell the state of an earth thing when I see them. And we pick up on those energies, and they can permeate through us and, definitely, affect us, too.
But some people’s energies can be too much to bear. Whether they are that chatty person who will not shut up.
Or the nagging person who will not shut up LOL
That family member who is always making caustic statements that they claim are just joking comments.
Or that sort of “friend” who does that sort of “joking,” which quite frankly pisses you off.
Your partner or loved one or significant other who is constantly putting you down.
Or the partner or significant other who is not independent at all, but clingy and cloying.
The buttinsky in-laws.
The noisy neighbors!!
What about those coworkers who are rude, inconsiderate, talk your ear off, or bring all their drama to the workplace????
Also, in managing these divergent individuals, you may find yourself watching what you say so as not to make them angry.
Or question you.
Or belittle you.
Now, there are basically four types of earth things that I cannot stand to deal with:
- Overly religious people. (I feel like I have to walk a tightrope around them, watch what I say.)
- People who talk too much. (They never let you get a four-letter word in edgewise. They are draining and often put me to sleep as I tune out.)
- Those individuals who must belittle you constantly. (They think they are being funny; they are just being obnoxious.)
- Humans who correct EVERYTHING you say, i.e. again, you feel you must watch what you say around them. (Another set of a draining bunch, the know-it-alls. I don’t like being corrected as it is, but these people take it to an extreme!)
I want you all to know that I am not in any way blaming anyone else for my/our problems. But one thing I have discovered about life and people in general, is that it can be rather laborious to have to navigate around and through other individuals, whether they are your family, close friends, your more personal and intimate relationships, and just people in general.
The other thing I have definitely learned is that sometimes it is not life or even life circumstances that bring us down. It’s the people.
I am also going to be transparent in saying I know for a fact that I have been a challenge to deal with due to all of my problems and mental imbalance and neuroses. I used to take my mental horror show out on others, which is a big NO NO. (And unfortunately, I just did it again, which will be another blog post.) We should NEVER do that. But I know sometimes, we unfortunately do. I have allowed my emotional instability and nonsense to affect everyone from family to close friends to even strangers. It was horrible. So, I am putting myself out there first and foremost.
And, of course, there have been MANY times I have been affected by humans and their whatever. We all have.
And so addressing the question again, is dealing with people making us insane? Or maybe insane is a strong word. Edgy? Cautious? Careful? Nervous? Anxious? Crazy?
I asked a friend and frequent reader of my blog what bugs him the most about people. His answer was their selfishness. I can see that. There are those individuals who CLEARLY only care about themselves. For me, it is the tiny ways in which people show their selfishness. Whenever you are at the grocery store and they want to block the aisles. Or they are in their car and another car is on the other side of a two-lane road or street, and they decide to hold a conversation from their cars. Of course, there are bigger ways people show their selfishness, such as thinking of themselves rather than the needs of others.
I also find the expectations and pressure people put on us extremely draining. There are the expectations from family, friends, PARENTS, and yes, even children and significant others. You try to match said expectations and live up to them, which is intricate, wearisome and downright exhausting.
The best one can do in this situation is to breathe, take a step back, and realize that you can only expect the best of yourself, and that you do not have to live up to the expectations of others. Children, of course, are different I would imagine. But also, as long as your children are provided for and well cared for and nurtured, I think you should still make sure you are taking care of yourself, too.
Ending on a positive, try gravitating to those individuals that energize you, prop you up, bring a smile to your face. THOSE are the people I wish to be around.
However, it is okay to be by yourself to refresh. Reframe. Recharge. And we need to seek the comfort of ourselves from time to time to simply regain balance.
Well, this is the end for today. I hope you enjoyed this post, and I look forward to seeing you next week.
As always, please be mentally well!
DEREK’S DISCLAIMER: I am not a medical professional, neither am I giving any medical or legal advice. If you are seeking help from a doctor or an attorney, please consult said professionals. These are my personal thoughts and feelings on the subjects discussed, and my blog is my own personal experiences and journey with mental imbalance. Thanking you in advance!
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