It is Okay to Detach from People

Welcome back, my dear friends! I am back with something that has been weighing on my mind lately.

I have decided it is time to stop chasing after people, stuff, things, etc. Because I realize that it has gotten me nowhere. And I’m quite honestly sick and tired of it. And it has wreaked havoc on my mental faculties.

I have written about letting go of “stuff” and people in the past. However, I want to tailor this blog post to more specifically detaching and letting go of people.

The Art of REALLY Letting Go!

To an extent, as a child, I wanted to be liked. Didn’t we all? And I wanted to be part of a group; I wanted to belong. Again, didn’t we all?

When you have been disappointed by people as much as I have, and you have been burned enough in that department – not to mention counting on people for certain things and they let you down – and even assuming friendship or assuming certain things about your friendship, you truly get sick of it. And so it is with great pleasure that I announce I am totally sole/soul alone!! 😁

The reason I call it “soul alone” is because of the Daryl Hall SOLO album, of the same name. Great album. Here’s the opening track – “Power of Seduction.”

Daryl, from time to time, felt the need to detach from John Oates, and that’s okay.

But I digress.

I have been doing a lot of affirmations surrounding no longer chasing after things and people and just relaxing and allowing things to just be as they are.

This is coming from a place of having too many expectations from people, and not having any of them met or fulfilled. I know that that is the death of your mentality to always want something from people, aka Earth Things, and particularly Earth Things you know, even your friends.

Well, I am at a place in my life where I am okay with being alone, with doing things on my own. Ha. I rhymed. 😂😁

This detachment is more of an internal detachment. It isn’t really a “leave me the fuck alone; I’m totally staying away from people” sort of thing. Well, not necessarily. Because obviously (and sometimes unfortunately) you have to deal with Earth Things at some point in time.

But cutting down on my interactions with them, and certainly cutting out the expectations and assumptions and presumptions is VERY good for my mental health. And I’ll bet it will be good for yours, as well.

Otherwise, you’ll be left waiting. Waiting for someone to do something for you.

Waiting for love.

Waiting. Just waiting.

Check out Madonna’s song about the subject of “waiting.”

When you detach or separate yourself, you truly are at peace. You create that space within yourself to rely on YOURSELF which is what we all should do anyway.

You not only create peace, but resilience and strength. Because people (or Earth Things as I like to call us), are all over the place. We have our own stuff to deal with, and it is fair to say that we are not always available, emotionally or otherwise.

When you detach, you cut out any hard feelings.

You protect yourself and your own mental wellbeing.

And you are happier.

Because being dependent upon someone else can be the pits.

But I think you gain so much more strength and maturity by simply detaching yourself from others, temporarily. Or just pull a Stevie Nicks and tell people to “STAND BACK!” 🤣😁😂

And it’s not like it has to be forever. Again, it certainly can be a temporary thing, because, again, there are times when we do need each other.

And this DEFINITELY applies to detaching from bad relationships!!!

I don’t wish to tell other adults what to do, but it goes without saying that if you are stuck in a toxic or dead-end or, heaven forbid, abusive relationship, to quote the Jordan Peele movie “GET OUT!”

Find the strength somehow to walk away and to let go – rise above and move forward.

I would suggest doing the same with toxic friendships, toxic family members, and toxic organizations and jobs. You get the idea.

It is, of course, easier said than done to “detach” from people and to walk away. But remember, if you feel that you need the strength and conviction to do so and you need to speak with a professional, then online therapy may be the way to go. You can do this in the comfort of your own home without having to get in traffic to drive to an office. Check it out by clicking on the link below:

Thank you all so much for diving into today’s topic. Please stay tuned for more posts. In the meantime, please be safe and, as always, be mentally well!

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