Hello, all of my dear friends and readers! I hope all of you are doing well in 2024 thus far!
Alonely?? What the hell does that mean? Well, it’s a combo of Alone + Lonely. And I came up with the word to signify that just because one is single and “alone” doesn’t mean that you are lonely.
In other words, to quote one of my dear friends, “You don’t need a man!” Or woman if you’re a hetero male, lesbian or bi. 😁😂🌈🌈🌈
With Valentine’s Day quickly approaching, you know all of the attention is going to be on couples. Yawn.
I made a bold statement in one of my blog posts at the end of 2023:
Society says you’re not complete unless you have someone. After all, people congratulate you for being coupled, yet they do not congratulate you for being single and being able to stand on your own. They think being alone signifies weakness and that NOBODY wants you. However, if you are coupled, married, partnered, etc. you must truly be something special.
Please click on the banner below to read the full article. And yes, it is about me chasing men throughout my gay career. You can also access Parts 2 and 3 within this post in the dropdowns from Blog Posts from 2023.
At any rate, as the saying goes, just because I am single and alone, doesn’t mean I am lonely. I first heard that wayyyyyy back in the day during an episode of Good Times, where Florida and Thelma were trying to fix Willona up, because they thought that since she was not married (any longer), that she must be in need of a MAN!! 🤣
That is when Willona uttered the line, “just because I’m alone, doesn’t mean I’m lonely,” which sort of stuck with me all these years. Too bad I didn’t pay much attention to it, as it would have saved me a lot of grief and heartache.
You know that society tells you and pounds into your head that we are sexual creatures and that we were built to be mated and coupled and shacked up and shit. However, if it doesn’t happen or hasn’t happened YET or what have you, people look at you strange. They regard you as not good enough. Or perhaps you regard yourself that way, because you know the couples are having a bloody good time loving each other and being… coupled. I’m being sarcastic. 😉😂
There is NOTHING wrong with being single. And there is NOTHING wrong with you if you are still single. It has taken me all these YEARS to realize that I am still a wonderful being, an OUTSTANDING creation on my own. That the idea of someone “completing me” is sort of ridiculous. I feel complete as Derek!!
And I will not disagree that it would be fun to have a partner. But I am no longer holding my breath. At 56 years young, I am enjoying my life as is. Believe me, I have plenty to do and to accomplish.
I am really starting to dig being single. Being surrounded by so many couples (and of course having it thrown in your face constantly on social media), I can say I truly appreciate being on my own. I LOVE not having to answer to anyone else. Not having to be responsible for anyone else. Not having to worry about or take care of someone else. It is actually quite freeing.
And nope. I don’t see any downsides of being single. If you are talking about having a companion to accompany you to places, bitch, I have been taking myself to the movies, restaurants, and on vacations, et al since my 20s!!! Heck, I took myself to Europe back in May of 2022 for my birthday!!!
I am not saying I’m against being coupled. If it happens, it happens. However, I am no longer waiting/pursuing it.
Ooooooo watch out, Derek! Because they say that is when “it” happens. You find the one when you’re not looking or least expect it. Well, he ain’t showed up yet! 😁😂😂 Not to my knowledge anyway. And I ain’t changing who I am and how I am or my behavior. I am super focused on MY life and MY healing and MY career.
Going back to the meat of the post, about not being lonely, that’s another thing, I am surrounded by people. I go out and I am ALWAYS going to see people I know. I connect with people on social media. I connect with friends via texting. I constantly speak with my mother and aunt.
But Derek, it’s not the same as, you know, a MAN!!! I know, but I am so used to it that it doesn’t bother me anymore. It is what it is. And again, I am SUPER BUSY with Derek stuff.
Besides, I get plenty – and I do mean – PLENTY of attention from MEN!!!!!
And that is it for today.
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Please come back next week when I delve into Uranus being in Taurus, and what that really means. So, if you are into horoscopes, then this is the post for you! Until then, please be safe and mentally well!
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