Month: July 2023

Welcome back, my dear friends!

Pride ended two weeks ago, but I still feel led to write about it, and the dirty trick The Supreme Court of the United States (SCOTUS) pulled on the final day of Pride, Friday, June 30.

If you haven’t heard by now, on that day, SCOTUS decided that it was okay to allow businesses to discriminate against people of the LGBTQ+ community (and others), on the basis of it “going against your religion.” 🤬🤬🤬

“On the last day of its term, the United States Supreme Court ruled today that nondiscrimination laws could not be enforced against businesses that offer expressive products and services. The ruling significantly weakens laws that protect LGBT people and others against discrimination.

The case, 303 Creative v. Elenis, involved a web designer who wanted to make wedding websites but worried she would have to create them for same-sex couples because of a law that prohibited discrimination based on sexual orientation. The Court ruled that, because the conduct involved her expression, it was protected speech and the nondiscrimination law could not be applied to her.”

As you can see from the last paragraph, this web designer, Lorie Smith, in essence won the right to discriminate. But now I’m hearing that the story isn’t even true, about the web designer that is.

Well, I’ll get to that in a minute.

Let’s start with the Supreme Court of the United States. I like calling them simply “SCROTUM,” since they think they’ve got the balls to do such a mean thing.

It was definitely no coincidence they made their final ruling, pertaining to the web designer, on the final day of Pride. It was like a huge FUCK YOU to the gay community. I suppose they thought no one would notice. Ha! But believe me we did.

It isn’t enough to have so-called conservative Christians attack drag queens and ban drag shows. Yes. Banning drag. As well as books. Can we say George Orwell’s 1984? And taking a cheap shot by saying they “want to protect their children.” Bull. But now to blatantly allow businesses to discriminate against an entire community and group of people simply because of WHO THEY ARE, is absolutely outrageous!!!

As far as I’m concerned, this is exactly why we have Pride and why we march. Because of evil bullshit like this. When does it end??

It is just like Nazi Germany in the 30s, pre-WWII.

And this is the time for me to bring up the fact that Uranus is in Taurus. And what the heck does that have to do with the price of tea in China? Well, the last time Uranus was in Taurus was – guess when? – the time leading up to WWII!!

This is truly frightening, as far as I am concerned.

Thanks to SCOTUS, our rights are slowly but surely being taken away.

1. Roe v. Wade being struck down in 2022.
2. President Biden’s huge student loan relief plan was struck down by SCOTUS.
3. Affirmative Action was also recently struck down at UNC-Chapel Hill (my alma mater) and at Harvard, effectively saying that it is unconstitutional to admit someone based on their race.

But honorable mention goes to state and governor decisions:

1. The banning of books in schools and libraries in Florida, Texas, South Carolina, Utah, Missouri, and Wisconsin.
2. Banning drag queen shows in Tennessee!
3. Banning drag story time in certain libraries across the country!
4. And as much as I am not a fan of TikTok, they are now banning the app on state phones in Wisconsin and North Carolina, citing potential safety and security issues. Could the ban include private citizens next?

People, pay attention and WAKE UP!! Just because it isn’t happening to you or doesn’t affect you, doesn’t mean that down the road it won’t. It doesn’t mean that a ruling or a new law won’t come along that will eventually affect you. You had better get your head out of your collective arses and realize what is happening.

We have to stay vigilant!!! Okay. Stepping off my little soapbox. For now. 😉😊😁

And about the fake website thingy in the court case 303 Creative v. Elenis, it would appear that the plaintiff named in this case is… well, he claims he didn’t file any suit.

The particulars in a nutshell: A man by the name of Stewart, apparently approached Lorie Smith, the Colorado web designer, to build a website for his upcoming nuptials to his partner Mike.

This was back in 2016.

However, when this gentleman Stewart was approached recently, he claims that not only did he not approach this Lorie Smith to build a website for him and intended spouse “Mike,” but that Stewart is married to a WOMAN and has a child!

So, we don’t know what the KCUF is going on! It is now very possible that Lorie Smith fabricated the entire thing in order to file this lawsuit.

Or perhaps this Stewart guy is backpedaling and taking back his original claim.

According to the REAL Stewart, someone used his name, cell phone number and email address to request a wedding website, though he is married to a woman.

It’s all very confusing.

However, the bottom line is SCROTUM – er SCOTUS – is taking away women’s rights, gay rights, and civil rights. They are allowing discrimination across the country. When does it end????

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Welcome back, my dear friends and readers!!! We are just coming off yet another Pride Month. And I do hope yours was FANTABULOUS!!

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With the decks constantly stacked against us, especially where SCOTUS rulings and conservative Christians STILL attacking us, now more than ever, the LGBTQ+ community, particularly gay men need to come together to fight!

And considering last Friday when I posted my Stonewall/Marsha P. Johnson post, SCOTUS pulled a fast one and basically said it was okay for businesses to discriminate against the LGBTQ+ community based on religion. And on the final day of Pride!!! 😡😡😡

But anyway. I suppose when I came out, I expected it to be one big, grand GAY party. Lots of men, lots of sex, lots of love, and lots of support.

Um but that didn’t happen, not quite like that anyway.

I especially expected an immediate boyfriend, too. Definitely didn’t work out that way at first. Sure I most certainly have had my fair share of lovers and dates and boyfriends, but the support, though, that’s another thing.

There is nothing like having your “sisters” around you. And if you don’t know the gay lingo, ‘sister’ refers to your closest gay brothers. These are cisgender gay men. Just like when I say someone is “family,” that means they are gay, just like me/us.

And I have close “sisters” and gay friendships, plenty of those. But it seems, for example, when I am on certain gay platforms, okay like social media, the men are not supportive at all. Unless you look a certain way. In other words, if you work out in a gym daily, or the new thing is gray-haired gay men, and now long, Santa Claus-bearded gay men and Silverdaddies, etc., you’re in.

You receive all sorts of accolades related to LOOKS.

And before we go any further, this is NOT a crybaby post about how I don’t get any attention, because I get PLENTY of attention from men, thank you very much.

And I am trying not to make blanket statements. Forgive me if I do.

But I am talking about support that goes deeper than your looks or sex. I am talking about support where you need it most – and no not financially – but simply emotionally.

I will take that one gay group that I USED to belong to, as an example. Gay men would post innocent questions in the group, and I don’t believe they were seeking the typical validation. However, there were several very caustic and downright mean comments thrown at them.

And that wasn’t the first time I had seen rude comments like that.

I, myself, fell victim to it once when I posted a joking comment towards one of my gay friends also on this particular site. And someone I didn’t know, TRIED to make a mean comment to me. I simply laughed. Literally. 😂

And it isn’t just on social media or online forums.

We tear each other down, whether it is over looks, the gym, diet, our choice in fashion, our choice in dating.

And I do hope jealousy is not a factor.

And don’t get me started on the little subgroups I have noticed popping up over the DECADES since I’ve been out.

The bears. The twinks. The gym bunnies. The preppies. The chubby guys. The chubby chasers. The over 60 group. The under 60 group. The A-lister gays. And so on, and so forth.

It’s like this little hierarchy or categories we as gay men find ourselves in.

And honorable mention to gay men who find their loves and/or husbands. They act like no one else exists!

I am fortunate, because I pretty much stay off to myself these days! 😂😂😂

And when I do, I hang out with a group of great gay guys. But just like my dearly, departed friend Charles B. Enzor used to say – “keep it light and airy.” And I do.

And I think I see what Charles really meant now. Perhaps, the “keep it light and airy” attitude is to protect yourself.

But again, I am fortunate because there are a couple of gay men I know who are in my corner. And I am in theirs.

I do feel, though, like as a group overall, we as gay men can support each other more.

After all, once you leave the bars and the drinks behind, will your gay peeps really have your back if something horrible happens in your life? Think about it.

And the same applies across the board: Black people, women, lesbians, and the list goes on and on. We can ALL do better!

And gay men, remember we are more than our bank accounts, gym memberships, and penis size. We have a LOT to offer this world, and I really do believe this world truly needs us. And we are definitely STRONG ENOUGH!!!

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Thank you once again for stopping by. Until the next time and in the meantime, as always, please be safe and mentally well!

DEREK’S DISCLAIMER:  I am not a medical professional, neither am I giving any medical or legal advice. If you are seeking help from a doctor or an attorney, please consult said professionals.  These are my personal thoughts and feelings on the subjects discussed, and my blog is my own personal experiences and journey with mental imbalance.  Thanking you in advance!

I do not own the copyright to any songs or videos listed here. 

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