Welcome back, everyone! Thanks for checking in.
This week’s topic is dealing and healing from years of trauma and drama. And what type of trauma do I mean? The trauma perpetuated on us by people, of course.
I know this sounds like another weepy, wimpy, you-can’t-handle-life kind of post, where it’s YOUR fault that you allow people to hurt you, walk all over you, or traumatize you.
However, when you realize in life that you are a people pleaser or, let’s say, come from a family who constantly puts you down or is toxic, and then that toxicity translates over into adulthood and others show up in your life who are just as toxic or equally pernicious, then you know EXACTLY what I mean.
These traumatic experiences can be anything negative that knocks you off your center, that you relive over and over and over again even if it is unintentional. It can mess with your mind and your personal security. You may feel low-esteem as a result or feel unworthy, off balance, afraid, nervous and anxious.
I also believe you can be traumatized for simply keeping your bazoo zipped and not saying anything to these virulent nutjobs, because you want to keep the peace and not make any waves or cause confrontations with said nutjobs.
Yep. We are going to start in childhood, because let’s face it – that’s where a lot of this junk starts. At least that was the case for me.
Bullying
Now. You know that I was going to go THERE.
First of all, being bullied is traumatic in and of itself. A bullied child may experience sleep disturbances, mood swings, insecurity, fear and anxiety.
And more often than not, these symptoms of trauma carry over into adulthood.
But there are other traumas, too, that can happen to a person later in life: Illness, a traumatic event such as rape or, heaven forbid a mass shooting, which I covered last week.
Other traumas can, unfortunately, include some type of ongoing abuse, such as spousal abuse or child abuse.
And there is the workplace. Let’s face it, but a lot of trauma can occur right there. A toxic workplace. A difficult boss. Difficult coworkers. Job loss. Threat of losing your job.
I think you get the picture in terms of different traumas.
But the question is – how do you cope? How do you heal from all this?
I think one of the first steps is realizing that you have, indeed, been traumatized by something or someone or some event.
Throughout a great deal of my adulthood, I was a very, very angry person. And I had no problem showing others that anger and vitriol deep within me. It actually wasn’t until a few years ago that I realized that I was dealing with my pain body.
I go into what the paid body is in length in this previous post. Please click the link below.
The pain body is years and years of accumulated, unresolved hurts and disappointments that one carries around with them, without realizing it. And the slightest incident can trigger that person into venting all of these bottled up feelings in a torrent of pain, anger and malevolence. And yep. I was doing that. I don’t do that (as much) anymore now that I realize what it was. Hey, I’m an Earth Thing and still a work in progress. 😁😋
And that pain body can most definitely start in childhood. Oh yes, the childhood crap, such as neglectful parents, growing up and living in an environment where you are blamed for everything, growing up in an environment where you are constantly talked down to, feeling unsafe and unsure in your environment.
Please click the link below for the post I wrote on that.
What people don’t realize is that we are a cumulation of years of drama, disappointments, and trauma, making us who we are today.
But a lot of people don’t believe that and/or refuse to believe it or do something about it.
So, step one is acknowledging that you were traumatized.
I would say the next step in healing is figuring out what works for you in your healing process and journey.
Here are some ideas:
- Journaling and/or writing about what happened to you and acknowledging it. Give space and honor to the fact that dammit – I’m in pain from X, Y, Z. NEVER let ANYONE tell you to just GET OVER IT. No. Acknowledge it! Own it! No, you don’t have to stay stuck in it.
- Which brings me to another thought. Getting unstuck. Figure out those triggers. I think when you do that, you’ve already won half that battle.
- Suggestions: I will always but always suggest meditation. Sit quietly and reflect on your past and what happened. And then begin to make peace with the fact that you cannot change that past. You cannot change the people involved. And tell yourself you did NOT deserve the trauma and the pain that went with it.
- Another suggestion: Music is soooo helpful.
- So, are affirmations. For me, affirmations are now like breathing or drinking water. I find them very necessary to start my day and put me in a more relaxed and peaceful mood. Affirmations are like my gas to get this 55-yo vehicle going! 😎😅
- FORGIVE YOURSELF!! People are always running around saying to forgive others. Yes. Do it IF YOU CAN. It is sometimes easier said than done. I prefer to say RELEASE THEM. But definitely love and forgive yourself first and foremost, I say.
- Know that you, yes YOU are a valuable person worthy of everything wonderful and good in this world, and that no one has the right to tell you otherwise. They can, but screw ’em. 😉
And remember, if you feel that you cannot cope or need to speak with a professional, then online therapy may be the way to go. You can do this in the comfort of your own home without having to get in traffic to drive to an office. Check it out by clicking on the link below:
That’s it, my dear friends and readers. Come back next time as I discuss detaching from people. Woo hoo! Talk about a way to heal from your trauma and drama. 😀
Until then, please be safe and mentally well!
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