Greetngs my friends! I hope all is well with you as we slide deeper into the holiday season, which can be a post in and of itself! 😊😉
Be forewarned: This may actually be more of a spiritual (not religious) post rather than a mental health one. But it is all good.
And as such, I am NOT pushing any spiritual or religious beliefs on anyone. We all believe what we believe, and that is definitely okay.
All right. So. Slight beginning rant. I have ALWAYS HATED it when someone tells me that I need to let something go. First of all, you don’t know me and my emotional needs. So, how dare you say that to me? I can say it to myself, but somebody else saying that to me actually irks me. It’s like I can talk about my mama, but you can’t -kind of thing.
And what does that even mean, letting go? Let it go. Let something go. For one, I think it depends on what that something is. As far as mental health issues are concerned, it is easier said than done to let it go. Some issues are extremely deep rooted and harder to “let go” than others.
And what are we letting go? Bitter feelings? Negative emotions? Negative feelings? A person? People? What people think? A job? A difficult circumstance? The past? A love relationship? Family? Bad memories? Stuck patterns? Outdated belief systems? Fear? Worry? Neediness? Dependence on others?
Phew. What a list! And as you can see, “letting go” of some of that stuff is, again, easier said than done.
I think when most people say to “let something go,” I think they mean letting go of the past. And they would be correct on that one. Don’t dwell on the NEGATIVE past, as I like to say. It keeps you stuck and in pain, and angry. I oughta know. Overall, that isn’t good for your mental or physical health. (And people don’t bother to tell you that part either.) Focus on the things that make you happy here in the present.
And again, NO ONE tells you that part either. They just tell you to “let it go” without any instruction or tips on how to do that. That’s why when you tell someone to let it go, then you had bloody well be prepared to follow through on running your mouth, especially if it has NOTHING to do with you personally, and give them advice on how to “let something go.”
And by the way, I think it is okay to have fond memories of a happier past. Sadly, we can’t just live there anymore.
Secondly, HOW do you let something go? Let’s be honest, as stated above, the people who say that shit, aren’t giving you not the first idea as to how to let that thing you are supposed to let go, go. (Did you get that?) 😊🤣😂
It’s just word salad to them.
So, let’s figure out this letting go thing together.
One thing I have learned more and more about letting go is actually surrendering whatever your thing is. Or simply surrendering period. It is not giving up, actually. To me it is allowing a space of peace to come inside of you as you release your whatever it is you are letting go. I like to call it rising above and moving forward.
As a matter of fact, I have other alternatives or word choices than just the bland “let it go” crap.
Move forward.
Releasing.
Rise above.
Elevate.
Move (or elevate) to a higher consciousness.
Detaching.
I prefer rising above and moving forward as opposed to letting go. Because at the end of the day, what it is that is bugging you, bothering you, ESPECIALLY if it has something to do with the past, you don’t have a choice but to move forward.
Another way of letting go or surrendering or moving forward is to just stop trying so hard, especially if it is something that you want really badly. Like money. Or a relationship. Or a new job. No one is saying don’t put forth the effort, but you can’t let it be a stranglehold around your neck, choking you.
I also believe in no longer waiting on something or someone. This goes back to detaching. This is another way to “let go” or surrender.
And this is where I am going to bring in the Universe.
How many of us have read and/or heard about just letting go and letting the Universe? Or letting go and letting God? But what does that really mean?
I look at it as resting. Just stop. Just be. Put whatever your intention is out there to God or YOUR Higher Power or the Universe or Your Loving Spiritual Companion – whatever you wish to call it. Hell, I actually like Cosmic Santa Claus LOLOL.
And keeping in mind, there are people who do not even believe in a God or a Higher Power. And that is definitely okay, too.
At any rate, you don’t do anything. Obviously, if it is something that requires you putting in the work, then you must do that. For example, you have a big test coming up. Well, you must study. You can’t just go into the exam cold without having done that. That isn’t how the Universe works.
But then there are also things that are out of our control, such as someone’s illness. In that case you don’t have a choice but to surrender the outcome to the above entities mentioned above. Or surrender period.
Now. Let’s talk money. Show me the money, honey. This is and has been my biggest challenge as an adult. Not having money. Having money and foolishly spending it. Waiting for money, i.e. waiting to be paid. Wishing for money. Wishing I had MORE money. I think you get the picture.
So, I have finally decided to “let go” of money. Or at least I am trying very hard to. What do I mean? I am not going to allow it to control me. I am going to put in the work to have the money through my jobs, work, etc. But I am also setting an intention that I want to make $5,000 a month, net. I want to also be paid weekly as one of my income streams. Again, I am putting in the work to achieve these goals, but after that I am letting the Universe do its thing. I am not going to worry about it any longer. I am not going to force anything.
Which brings me to another point. Forcing the outcome.
I have been reading about how forcing the outcome or appearing desperate to the Universe does no good. The Universe will only see it that way, and you will actually keep yourself from getting what you want. You will actually end up blocking yourself from getting what you truly want. So, you gotta relax. Remember the pic above of the little boy just chillin’ in the middle of the leaves? Yeah. That. 😉
For me, it is some of the above, PLUS letting go of relationships and money and people. Just detaching and rising above the neediness and the waiting and the longing for something good to happen to me.
In summation, if all else fails, just focus on something else. Something that makes you happy if you are still struggling to “let something go.” Immersing yourself into a project or a new job or doing outreach work or volunteering, works wonders. And it is nothing new to “throw yourself into” something else to get your mind off your troubles, as they say. 😊
We have talked a lot about spiritual things today and about letting go. However, as stated above “letting go” is a lot easier said than done. That is why if you feel that you cannot cope or need to speak with a professional, then online therapy may be the way to go. You can do this in the comfort of your own home without having to get in traffic to drive to an office. Check it out by clicking on the link below:
That’s it for this week. Come back when I deep dive into feeling abandoned by your own family and its effects on you mentally and emotionally. Until then, and as always, be safe and mentally well.
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