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The Javier/Jorge Christmas Story

Good day, my friends! Welcome back for another rather personal, yet light-hearted – light and airy – story from my past. My own little Christmas story, without the BB gun. 😂

My gristly little tale – kidding – started on my usual return home, back to North Carolina, for the holidays. The year was 1995, and I was already living in Atlanta. Back then, I would return to The Power Company in Durham to hang out and stay with my friend Teresa rather than get a hotel, because I’m a cheap Taurus. Ha!

It was December 23, 1995, and after hanging out with Teresa, I set out for The Power Company (which still featured prominently in my life at this time, following the Phil, Charles Enzor and Darrell storylines!). Please click on the Charles Enzor link to see last week’s post talking about The Power Company, on which I probably should do a blog post LOLOL 😂🤣

Anyway, before I left, I remember joking to Teresa that maybe I would go out and meet a Hispanic guy and end up with Hispanic in-laws. At this point in my story, I was starting to really desire Hispanic men in a big way!

Anyway, I arrived at The Power Company and no doubt parked on that same deck where I shared MANY kisses with Charles. The memories came flooding back of him and even Phil, but mostly Charles. However, I didn’t wish to involve myself with anyone at this time. My relationship with the married man of two years was over, and I did not want to meet anyone. That was most certainly not my intention. LOTS of backstory that I promise to cover in another blog post down the road. 😉😀

But anyway, I paid the usual cover and entered the bar. The first thing I did was enter the main bar. There are three floors to The Power Company: The middle main bar with the dance floor; the downstairs part with coat check, a bar, a bookstore, and a huge video screen and lounge area; and the top bar and mezzanine.

As soon as I entered the main bar, I was surrounded by the thump, thump, thump of the bass, pounding from the enormous speakers pumping out whatever dance song was hot at the time. (It could have been the above song, which was hot at the time.) I wanted to get my cocktail, which I believe at the time was still Brandy Alexanders or Kahlua and Cream. Fancy! So, I went up on the mezzanine and into the top bar and got my drink. I sat down, first, on one of the many rather cushy and comfy couches surrounding the top bar. My first thought was actually, ‘maybe I’ll run into Phil.’ But this time as a friend, not trying to pursue him. That was over. My how I’d grown up in the past six years! LOLOLOL

The top bar had a huge window that stretched across the length of the bar so you could look out onto the dance floor and see all of the hot guys grooving and vogueing. I watched the show for a while, and then I went back to the mezzanine to further observe, peruse and survey to see who I knew, something I often did there in the past.

My eagle eye finally caught a former trick from when I lived there. I recognized the face, but the hair was different, much shorter.  But I knew that because he hadn’t worn his rock-star type hair real long since that first night I met him at The Power Company six Christmases ago!  I suddenly had a flashback to Christmas 1989!  I remembered when Nick took over that night and slept with Ricky Mann at the Heart of Durham Hotel!  I snapped out of my catatonia and made my way over to Ricky and spoke.  He looked up and grinned, then we embraced.  He was there with his cousin, who was black.  Don’t ask.  Okay.  Ricky, who was white, had black in-laws.  Brief introductions were made.  Tony was his name, and before long we were on the dance floor.  At first we were dancing, but soon Tony disappeared and it was just Ricky and me.  There was one time we were standing on one side of the bar – where the lesbians normally stood – taking a break when I first laid eyes on HIM.                

He was the most gorgeous guy I had ever seen at The Power Company, EVER! Hell anywhere! He was short, slender, had dark-hair, dark eyes, and a hint of a moustache and goatee.  He looked Mexican.  Oh, God HE WAS HOT!!!  He was on the dance floor, and he was wearing this bone white coat that hung slightly below his ass.  I noticed he was dancing with this tall, heavy-set girl, and I wondered if they were together together.  I didn’t care, because while I was talking to boring Ricky I kept stealing glances at this guy. 

The music back then was soooo damn hot!!

This is how the night went on, me talking to Ricky while simultaneously checking this guy out.  The bar had thinned out, which STILL left a rather huge crowd of people in the bar. Ricky and I were dancing, and I noticed that this guy was dancing alone.  And he was so cute.  He was still wearing his coat.  I would try to dance near him, and of course he noticed me.  I wanted him to say something, but he never did.  At least I got a glance or two out of him.  Well, Ricky and I eventually tired and sat down facing the dance floor on the opposite side of the bar. I noticed that my guy from the dance floor and his female companion had returned and together they ended up standing exactly above Ricky and me. Hmmm.  Could it be I was being spied upon?  Could it be they were not together together?  Hmmm!

Ricky and I sat and talked, and it didn’t take me long to realize that Ricky was quite depressed.  I tried in vain to shake him out of it, but to no avail.  He just wanted to be miserable.  I tried to ask why he was feeling so blue.  His response?  Loneliness,  mostly due to the holidays, which is understandable. I tried to seduce him, figuring maybe that would cheer him up.  No good.  He was too far gone. So, I kept turning around and staring up at that sexy guy, exchanging glances with him.  He had the darkest, sexiest eyes.  It was sort of hard to tell in the dark if he was actually staring back at me, but when the strobe lights hit his handsome face, I could tell that he was. 

Ricky and his depressed state were getting on my damn nerves! It was hard to believe that this was the same man who picked me up six years prior.  He was a shell of his former self, complaining that he had gotten old and fat.  While he was throwing the pity party for one, I managed to get a smile out of that guy because I smiled at him.  I wanted so much to say something to him. 

Finally Ricky’s cousin came over and announced that he was ready to go.  Ricky and I exchanged hugs and wished each other a Merry Christmas.  And then they left, leaving me to stare up at Mr. Moustache. At one point, though, when I was glancing out at the dance floor pondering what to do, I noticed that his female companion was pushing the sexy guy out the door, literally!  He was leaning back against her, resisting her as if he didn’t want to go.  In that instant I felt sad, yet good at the same time.  Sad because he was leaving, but good because he obviously wanted to stay, maybe because of me.  I thought to myself, ‘Oh, well, he’s gone.’  So, I waited another 5 or 10 minutes, then I left, as well. 

The Power Company and the infamous parking deck, the white structure towards the top on the right side.

I was heading for my car (this time I was able to get a space in front of the club as opposed to the deck) when suddenly from out of nowhere this big, tan Cadillac came barreling through the parking lot nearly striking me!  I instantly turned around and noticed it was him!  That sexy guy was driving!  He apparently never left, though his female companion was in the car with him.  Did he stick around because of me?  I wanted him to stop, but he kept on driving.  Christ, he was fucking beautiful!  But I thought, ‘Oh, well.  Who cares?  I’ll never see him again.  I’m through with men anyway!’  I had just broken up with my married man.  I didn’t need the aggravation.  However, that night on Teresa’s couch, I dreamt about that mysterious stranger …

The next day I did not mention the guy or the dream to Teresa.  I figured I just dreamt about a really hot guy and that was that.  Teresa and I had breakfast and hung out that day until nightfall, then I got ready for Capital Corral.  We had planned to leave together at 8 a.m. the next morning to go home for Christmas.  That meant I was supposed to cut my trip to CC short.  Except it didn’t happen that way …

I got to CC and for some reason, I thought that maybe I’d run into Mr. Moustache again, though it was unlikely that I’d get a 2nd chance.  However, I was proven, like, SO WRONG when I realized lightning can strike twice.  I was posing near the entrance to CC, and he walked by me into the area where the pool table was located near the barber’s chair where Charles sat that time I fed him and Victor popcorn all those years ago …  Memories …  And now Charles was gone…forever.   

Anyway, I knew I had to say something to him, because what if I didn’t get another chance?  Moments later I saw him standing by the entrance to, I suppose was, the ladies’ room.  I walked up to him and stood there a moment behind him.  Then I tapped him on the shoulder.  He turned around and smiled at me.  Oh God he was as gorgeous as ever!!!!  Those dark piercing eyes, that moustache and goatee, and that jet black hair that looked just a little slicked back.  He was definitely Mexican, and he was most definitely HOT!!!!!  I then opened my mouth for the very first time to speak to him, praying I didn’t say something stupid or sound stupid:

                “Hello?  How are you?” 

                “Fine.  And you?”  He replied with a thick accent I found incredibly sexy. 

                “I’m all right.  Do you mind if I ask you how old you are?”  (Dumb!) I was in the company of such gorgeousness, I didn’t know what else to say.    

                “Guess!”  Oh he was sharp.  I stared at him for awhile.  He looked to be in his 20s, maybe mid-to-late. 

                “27.”  I guessed.

                He smiled and said he was 24.

                “You carry yourself older.” (Dumb and dumber) But isn’t that what everyone told me? 

I continued.  “My name is Derek.  What is yours?”  I asked eagerly.

  “Jorge.” 

Jorge.  Jorge.  Jorge.  So, his name was Jorge.  What a beautiful name for such a beautiful, little man.  He was wearing a tan, long-sleeve cotton shirt and matching tan jeans.  I asked him if he wanted to sit and talk, because clearly he was interested from the way he continued to grin this cute, sexy little half grin and cock his left eyebrow up.  He said yes, but he wanted to tell his friends first.  We marched up onto the dance floor where his female friend and about 3 or 4 other Mexican guys were sitting or standing around the blocks up there.  Jorge said something to them in Spanish, and then they all looked at me and began checking me out.  They must have thought he was going to take me somewhere and duck my brains out!  No, instead we went back into the main pool area and sat on the couch behind the pool table.  This is where I began to get to know Jorge. 

Javier the Christmas before

 I learned his name was Jorge Cortez and yes, he was from Mexico.  He had only been in the United States about 6 months, having first gone to live in California with relatives.  He hated it until a friend suggested he move to N.C.  He liked N.C. much better.  He was a painter, no not Rembrandt.  He painted buildings for a living, working for some company in Raleigh.  I noticed a bracelet that he was wearing that bore the name “AGUIRRE.”  I asked him about that, and he explained that it was one of his names.  We continued to talk, and I boldly asked him if he had a boyfriend.  He smiled and said, no.  He then asked me the same, and I told him, no not anymore.  I told him that I had just broken up.  And that is all I told him.  And to this day that’s all he knows about that.  He said he had broken up, too.  He then launched into this very strange tale about his ex.  He told me he dated this guy for about 6 months, but it took a bad turn.  He said that the guy called his parents in Mexico and told them that Jorge was dead!  That wasn’t very nice.

During the entire time we were talking, I was holding Jorge’s hands.  I looked up and saw Phil standing near the barber’s chair!  I remember thinking ‘Eat your fucking heart out Phil, and choke on it, bitch!’  I should have realized the two of them looked an awful lot alike… perhaps I do go after the same type of guys.

One of the songs featured prominently during the Derek/Javier storyline

We continued to talk until I asked him if he wanted to come sit in my car and talk some more.  He smiled and agreed to go out to my car and talk.  It was so cold outside.  The chill in the air reminded me of previous December nights at CC.  Yes, one in particular:  The night I saw Charles, and he was so emaciated. But that was a black, ICE COLD night.  No, this one seemed to have a little warmth in the air.  

We got to my car and I stared at the small figure standing and shivering at my passenger-side door.  He was oh, so gorgeous!  I was grinning like a naïve schoolboy about to have his first kiss.  I must admit I was a little nervous and didn’t know what to expect.  I opened the door for him, and he climbed in.  I decided to do like that Italian kid in A Bronx Tale starring Robert De Niro where his son, that kid, lets the black girl into his car.  This older guy had told him if he wanted to know if this was the one, walk behind the car, and if she leaned over and unlocked the driver’s side for you, you’d know.  Guess what?  Jorge did!  Silly I know.  But what was that, again, about Hispanic in-laws? 😉

Anyway, he got inside my car and we continued to talk.  For some reason he ended up showing me his driver’s license, which said “Javier Muro Aguirre.”  His license showed that his birthdate was July 13, 1971 – A Cancer.  Compatible with my sign, Taurus.  Of course I asked why his license said “Javier Muro Aguirre” and not “Jorge Cortez.”  His explanation:  His entire name wouldn’t fit on there, and I believed it.  Uh-huh.  I didn’t care who he was.  I just wanted to talk. Besides, you know I was no stranger to giving out other names.        

I told him I was from Atlanta and he grimaced.  “That’s a long way,”  he said.  “Oh yes,” was my reply.  He told me that his wicked ex- boyfriend resided in Atlanta.  I didn’t care about that either.  (Years later, I met a guy living in Atlanta, who also knew Javier. They hooked up a couple of times, but this was AFTER I was with Javier. Interesting …) 

He continued to stare deeply into my eyes.  His stare washed over me like slinky silk.  He was drawing me in little by little with his gaze.  We continued to talk, and it didn’t seem to matter the subject.  Just listening to him turned me on.  His accent was very thick, and I found myself melting. 

                We got on the subject of Spanish, and I got him to teach me some Spanish phrases. 

                “What do you want to say?”  He asked me smiling. 

                “Ummm.”  I thought a moment.  “I know.  How do you say ‘You are handsome’?  Because you are the most beautiful man I have ever seen.”

                He looked at me as if I was joking, then he said, “Yeah right.”

                “No, I mean it.  So, how do you say ‘You are handsome?’

                “Tu eres hermoso.”  He whispered seductively. 

                “Tu eres hermoso.  Now, how do you say, ‘I think you are cute’?”

                “Yo pienzo que eres muy guapo.”

                “Yo pienzo que eres muy guapo.  How do you say, ‘I like you’?”

                “Te quiero mucho!”  He whispered smiling at me.

                “Te quiero mucho!”  and I meant every syllable.

He smiled at me as I said, “I’d better write all of these down.”  I reached into my armrest and pulled out a pen and my notepad and with his help, jotted down the phrases.

                He then told me, “There is one you forgot.”

                “Oh?”  I whispered hoarsely.

                “Si.  Te amo; I love you.”  I got so wet when he said that. 

                “Te amo.”  I repeated. 

                “You are learning so fast!”  He smiled sweetly.

                “I have a good teacher.”  I replied, smiling back at him.  And then I said, “Te quiero mucho.”

He responded with “Te quiero mucho, mi nino.”  He told me that ‘mi nino’ meant, my baby as in my little boy.  I hadn’t been someone’s baby since – all right since the married man, but it sounded nice and felt so natural coming from Jorge.

 I said “Te quiero mucho” again to Jorge, and he responded in kind.  I couldn’t stand it anymore.  Between his accent, his smoldering good looks, his smile, and his piercing brown eyes, I just couldn’t stand it.  I had to kiss him.  We leaned closer to each other and then it happened, the spontaneous connection.  Our lips were the first to touch.  Then our tongues began searching each other out in our mouths.  It was pure bliss!!!

He would pull back and stare soulfully into my eyes and whisper “Te quiero mucho, mi nino!” I repeated the phrase.

I WAS HIS!!!

Whatever he wanted!  He suddenly maneuvered himself across me to the lever of my chair.  He reclined me back and then lowered his small, but wiry body over mine.  We continued to make out and talk and whisper Spanish phrases to one another, until I realized I had to go back to Teresa’s.  We were leaving to return to Anson County that morning!  I told Jorge I had to go.  And I swear to God he looked into my eyes and with tears in his eyes whispered, “Don’t go.”  IT BROKE MY HEART!  I wanted nothing more than to stay with him.  I’d rather stay and get to know this handsome stranger who called himself Jorge than face my family with their pressures and demands and bullshit.  I told him I had to go, but I didn’t.  Not quite yet. We kissed some more, ok lots more. 

Several million kisses later, I glanced at my watch and was shocked to see that it was 5 a.m.!!!!!  Omigod!  I hadn’t meant to stay out that late.  Being with Jorge just stopped time.  I told him I really had to go.  We kissed one more kiss and then he realized he had to get his coat, which was still inside CC!!  We crossed the street and pulled on the door only to find it locked.  Poor Jorge’s coat was locked inside, his friends had left him, and there wasn’t a soul in the parking lot.  Our cars were the only ones left, my Corsica and his tan Hoop-D.  I had to pee so we went into the dreaded dirty bookstore and into the video area.  More memories, mostly Nick ones, but they didn’t bother me because I was with Jorge Cortez er Javier Muro!

We walked back out into the colder-than-a-witch’s titty air, and I stared at him shivering.  Poor baby had no coat on, and he was freezing.  So, I did something I would normally not do; I took off the ski jacket I was wearing and draped it around him, though he protested.  When he saw I meant it, he smiled and thanked me. 

“Gracias.” 

We then hurried across the street to our cars.  I took him to his, and he returned my coat and got in.  He tried to crank his car but it wouldn’t start!  He kept on trying but no deal.  He looked so sad.  For a split second I thought he’d planned it just so he could spend more time with me.  How silly, but how romantic.  I couldn’t just let him stand out there to freeze.

                “I’ll take you home!” 

                “Gracias.  Thank you.” 

 So, we climbed into my Corsica and took off.  He lived in Durham, so it was on my way and we could be together longer.  On the way, he snuggled up to me really close.  I loved it, because for some reason it felt as if we were an old, in-love couple and that we had been together for years.  It felt really nice.  We once tried to kiss, but then he advised me to keep my eyes on the road since I was about to run off of it!  So, we settled for snuggling.  Anyway, we took the Durham Freeway and got off at the Alston Avenue exit.  He directed me down this dark street with rows of houses, then suddenly he told me to pull over.  It was time.  He was HOT!  I was HOT! 

 Let’s just say that what happened next was VERY private. 😂😘

Afterward, we continued on our way to his apartment, which was Juniper Street Apartments located on Juniper Street.  We parked, smooched a little more, and then went up the metal stairs to his apartment.  He had told me that he lived with his female friend Maria, and friends Hector, Rafael, and his two nephews.  Damn!  We were quiet as we walked into the kitchen and sat.  We stared at each other for a full minute; we smiled, and then I suddenly asked for a picture of him.  He thought a moment, then he found this picture of him taken at Christmas, perhaps the year before.  This is the picture from above. I thanked him for the picture, telling him I’d have to send him a picture or 2 of me.  So, we exchanged addresses, and I gave him my number since he had ran up a $1,300 phone bill calling Mexico!  He had no phone, so he had to use a pay phone! All of this before cellphones!

He walked me back outside, and he promised to call me.  We hugged and then I climbed down the stairs to my car, got in and pulled away.  He stood at the railing staring down at me smiling… longingly.  I missed him already!

By the time I got to Teresa’s, it was 7 a.m. and daybreak.  We were supposed to leave at 8 a.m. for Anson County.  She was already up, but still in bed watching TV.  I apologized for not being back sooner, but she just gave me a knowing look. 

Anyway, back home I was on such a high, because all I could think about Jorge.

When I returned to Atlanta, everyone I was around at that time knew I was in love. Everyone said how I was “beaming” and “glowing” like a Roman candle. And it was all true! LOLOL And later that week after meeting Jorge and right before New Year’s Eve,  there was a message from Jorge on my answering machine (how archaic!!!) saying:

“This is George …I mean Jorge Cortez.  I just called to see how you’ve been.  And I think I love you.  Or something like that!  Bye!”  It was so cute!

 So, that was the beginning of the Jorge Cortez Movie!!!! 

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That is it for now, my dear friends. Stay tuned for Part 2 of the story. Wishing you a very Merry Christmas, Season’s Greetings, Happy Holidays and whatever you do or don’t celebrate. Be safe and enjoy, and above all, be mentally well!

DEREK’S DISCLAIMERI am not a medical professional, neither am I giving any medical or legal advice. If you are seeking help from a doctor or an attorney, please consult said professionals.  These are my personal thoughts and feelings on the subjects discussed, and my blog is my own personal experiences and journey with mental imbalance.  Thanking you in advance!

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Me and Charlie B.

Welcome back my fellow friends in the fight against mental illness and for mental wellness!

I am honoring my promise to keep things light and airy during Christmastime, and I shall. And speaking of the phrase “light and airy,” that is what today’s topic is about – or rather, the person from whom I got the phrase: Mr. Charles Baxter Enzor.

I first met Charles at The Power Company, a gay bar in Durham, N.C., way back in 1990. It was during my Phil phase (which is another long story – which I shall also endeavor to keep brief someday 😂). Anyhoo, I was hanging out with people I met at the bar that night, and another friend, Herman Best, when I looked across the bar, and I glimpsed this rather hot and sexy, silver fox, who bore a striking resemblance to Sam Elliott! I couldn’t help it, but I found myself drawn to him, and I was so bold back then, that I decided to go over to him and say hello.

He was sitting alone on a stool at the foot of the stairs that lead up into the top part of the bar. I should insert here that I was NOT myself that night; I was one of my alters – Nick Montraire!!! And I hadn’t realized that until I saw the manuscript in which all of this is detailed (I kept journals detailing my experiences with Charlie B). Anyway, it was NICK, the slut, who approached him. We had seen him before at the bar. So, it was Herman and Nick who went up to him. I introduced myself as Derek (confused??? 🤣). Oh Charles was absolutely sexy! He had a thick, bushy moustache and salt and pepper hair that hung almost to his shoulders. He was a Hollywood dream! And as I said before, he bore a very striking resemblance to Sam Elliott!

Sadly, I have no pics of Charles when I knew him in the early 90s. But just imagine Sam Elliott. He was THE SPITTING IMAGE of Mr. Elliott!! Bushy moustache and all!

Well, “Nick,” Herman, and Charles chatted for a while until Herman decided to rejoin the other two guys we were with earlier, THANK GOD! Thought he’d never leave! That just left Nick and Charles.

Fortunately, during the course of the conversation, Nick vanished and I reappeared. And I learned that Charles was an ex-limousine driver from Charlotte. He was in art restoration. When I told him that I was a Carolina student, he admitted that he, too, had attended Carolina years before. Charles said that he was 38 years of age; I was a mere child of 22 at the time. I was just coming out at the time. I had only been out about six months or so when I first met Charles.

Charles’s high school graduation picture – 1970. Twenty years later is when we met.

We chatted for a long time that night. And I – Derek – made it a point to look for him every Friday night at The Power Company, as that is when he said he was normally there. And so, over the next several months, we did run into each other.

Well, fastforward to the Friday night following my birthday in May 1990 when I ran into Charles.  We chatted again as always, and we had a great time talking and dancing.  Oh, what a fantastic dancer he was!  Charles could really move those hips of his, around and around in a circular motion to the music.  It was so erotic! 

Anyway, as the bar was closing, I was about to say good night to Charles when he asked me where I parked.  I told him that I had parked on the deck.  He offered to drive me to my car, and hell yeah I accepted!  When we got to where my car was on the deck, I fully expected to thank Charles, get out of the car, and that would be that.  However, Charles never gave me that chance.  I couldn’t believe my ears over what Mr. Man had to say:           

“Finally, we are alone!  No Herman!” 

“Yeah, I know.  He’s your friend, but I didn’t want to be rude.  But he has been getting on my nerves!”  I explained. 

“He’s not really my friend.  I know him through another friend.  And Herman gets on my nerves, too!”  He chuckled. 

“I’m surprised to hear that.” 

“Don’t be.  It’s true.  But enough about Herman.  I finally have you alone, which is what I’ve been wanting to do for a long time!” 

The next thing I knew he kissed me!  (And I didn’t have to BEG him the way I did Phil the previous year!!) Our lips touched, then his tongue found its way inside my mouth, and my mouth graciously accepted!  Our tongues played with each other for a bit.  Then Charles would pull back, look at me, smile and go “Woof!  Baby!”  (So, I knew about the whole “Woof” thing before it was a thing 😁.) Then we’d continue kissing.  I was in pure heaven!  Finally, one of my dreams was coming true, and I didn’t need a plot, scheme or a faux alter to make it happen.  Charles was actually attracted to ME!  He obviously had felt the same way I did; he had wanted to get me alone as much as I had wanted to be alone with him. 

We stopped kissing after what seemed like an eternity, and we began talking again.  During the course of our conversation, I learned that he was from a small town three hours away from Chapel Hill called Fair Bluff, N.C.  I also learned that he worked at JR Short & Sons, where he did the art restoration.  In actuality, he did a lot of running around for his roommate John Short, who owned the biz.  Charles had been working there for the last 10 years or so.  He began doing that following his stint as a limo driver in Charlotte in the late 70s.  He and John owned that business together, too.  This is when I learned that John and Charles had actually been lovers!  Duh!  He told me that they were no longer lovers, more like roommates.  I didn’t question it any further than that. 

Over the next 2 to 3 years, for the most part, I spent as much time hanging out with Charles at The Power Company and The Capital Corral (more affectionately known as CCs in Raleigh located on Hargett Street) as I could. We had several little adventures/misadventures, and it was all such a blast!! So, much fun!

Capital Corral in Raleigh, N.C.

I remember how I would run to him with all of my adolescent problems with my college friends back then. He always took the time to listen to me, a messed-up twink who was still coming out, and he never dismissed me. We would dance and kiss, and kiss and dance some more. One of the biggest lessons I learned from him was to keep things “light and airy” between yourself and people. That way you don’t let them get too close and too comfortable, (and you don’t get hurt), a lesson I would forget over the years in my endeavors to be – close to people.

One of Lisa’s songs that ALWAYS reminded me of Charles, and that I played quite often during this time.

Needless to say, after all the dancing, kissing and wanting to be with Charles, I was in love with him. I couldn’t deny it. Hahahaha. I even finally admitted to Charles that I wanted to sleep with him. However, he sort of put me off, because in retrospect, I think he was afraid of giving me something. And I don’t mean a diamond ring.

You see, it was in December of 1990 the day before his 39th birthday, when he returned from a business trip in California, and he showed up at The Capital Corral looking extremely emaciated and exhausted!! He did not look like the same sexy and husky man I knew. In my heart I knew he was sick. I had never seen him look so thin and gaunt. When we talked, he said that he had had the flu and a sore throat, several times over the course of the last couple of months. But I knew.

Another song that I considered a “Charles Enzor” song, because he was always flying there.

I remember driving home that night being so depressed. The next day on Sunday, I couldn’t get off my couch. I canceled my private trumpet lessons that I was teaching at the time, and I did not go into work. I cried all day. I realized that part of the reason he was putting off sleeping with me was not because he didn’t want me, but because he was afraid he’d pass AIDs on to me. He even almost once said so!! Sitting in the piano room at the Capital Corral, we were talking about sleeping together and even planning it, but he said “I don’t want to be the one to give you …” and he stopped. And I asked what? And he never told me, and I never pressed the issue. Because again, deep down I knew.

Eventually, I ended up in a rather abusive relationship with Darrell Mitchell. So, I didn’t see much of Charles. Darrell and Charles did meet one night when we were all together at The Power Company, and Darrell was IMMEDIATELY sooooo jealous of Charles. He would even taunt me and say I wanted to be “with my old man.”

Following an HIV scare with Darrell (among other horror stories) and him moving to Atlanta, (and before I, myself, moved to Atlanta), I reconnected with Charles. It was then that Charles admitted that he did, in fact, have AIDs. I didn’t tell him I suspected as much. I just listened to him.

I moved away to Atlanta in 1993, and I never told Charles I left. And I don’t know why. I could have certainly called him. To this day I don’t know why I did that. Upon a return to North Carolina (and The Capital Corral), I learned from a former friend of Charles that he had indeed passed away in 1994. I was deeply saddened – and guilty – that he was gone and that I never told him I had moved away. What is so ironic is that I was with ANOTHER boyfriend (the married one) who had traveled with me back to N.C. for a visit!! I seem to have a penchant for learning of the death of former boyfriends/love interests when I am with a current beau!! WTF???

But Charles Baxter Enzor was gone. My only regret is that I never said goodbye …

Another “Charles” song that I kept on repeat.

Anyway, Charles had such a profound effect on my life, to the point that I even based one of my characters in my web series on him!!! The hunky, limo driver from North Carolina.

I still think of him fondly. All the nights we spent dancing and talking and yes, kissing, were magical and heavenly. I wouldn’t trade my time spent with him for the world, even if it was just as friends, bar friends. But I don’t care. It meant so much more to me than that.

I wish he was still here, because I often wish I could run to him with my problems LOL! He was a great listener and advice giver, something I have sorely lacked all. These. Years.

And as of the writing of this post, today is his birthday. He would have been 70 years young.

Here is one of the songs we used to dance to, “Nothing Compares to You,” Sinead O’Connors’s version, not Prince’s. And yes, we danced in each other’s arms.

Well, that is it for today, my friends. I hope you enjoyed this trip down memory lane with me. Until the next time, and as always, please be mentally well!

DEREK’S DISCLAIMERI am not a medical professional, neither am I giving any medical or legal advice. If you are seeking help from a doctor or an attorney, please consult said professionals.  These are my personal thoughts and feelings on the subjects discussed, and my blog is my own personal experiences and journey with mental imbalance.  Thanking you in advance!

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Dreams, The Window into the Soul and Mind

TRIGGER WARNING: I talk about an active shooter scenario in this post.

Hello, my fellow bent minders and friends!

This month, I am going to keep things “light and airy” since we are in the holiday season. Some posts may or may not have anything at all to do with mental illness. The December posts are designed to be fun. And some blog posts may actually be about Christmas! Ho! Ho! Ho! So, stay tuned!

But this first one, as we start off the month of December, is on one of my very favorite topics: Dreams!

I had these dreams earlier this year, around summertime, I think. But they were so vivid and memorable and worth noting. So, stick around …

The first one started in my hometown of Wadesboro, N.C., near my house.  I was walking down the street, and the next thing I knew this rather cute guy, dark-haired and moustached, was walking next to me.  I think he had a ballcap on.  Anyway, it seems we were walking to J.R. Faison Elementary School, the school that served as the hub for all buses heading to the elementary, junior high and high schools. 

The next thing I knew, we were on a bus heading God knows where.  Suddenly, this guy wanted to … well, you know – 😉😉. And we did and nobody seemed to notice. 

Flash forward to Atlanta several years later, and I find myself walking – or rather stumbling -down Piedmont toward where Smith’s Olde Bar is (or used to be???).  I don’t pay attention.  Anyway, there were a row of condos there, and one of them was mine.  I assume I was coming home from the bar, probably Hideaway, but I was soooo drunk.  I managed to make it home, but I couldn’t get in at first.  Suddenly, the door opens and it is this same guy.  Apparently, we are partnered and have been for several years at this point.  And it seems he was at the bar with me, but left me there because he wanted to come home, and I didn’t.  He wasn’t angry, but he wasn’t too happy either.  The next thing I knew we are upstairs in a fabulously decorated condo, and in bed. He is naked, and well, we – you know.  😉😉. 

Some of the Hideaway crowd. Recognize anyone???

Flash forward to what appears to be my college alma mater – UNC Chapel Hill.  And I think we were at Hill Hall where I spent the majority of my time there in the music department.  There are a lot of students around, and he is working as a janitor, I think, because he wore a uniform, and he was carrying in lots of bottled water and appeared to be mopping and sweeping.  I was trying to get his attention, but he wouldn’t talk to me.  No matter what I tried, he ignored me.  And the kicker is it was our 15th anniversary, and I kept trying to talk to him about what he wanted to do, but he continued to ignore me.  Then the dream ended. 

The next dream a couple of nights later started off with the current object of my love – a different guy than the previous dream and whom shall remain nameless. In this dream, he won $9,000 in some lottery game, I don’t remember which.  The next thing I know I am his chauffeur, and he wanted to go to Jimmy Dean’s restaurant, which I thought was very, very strange.  We started off on a bike, a two-seater, with him in the back, which turned into a car.  We pull up to the drive-thru, which I don’t even know if Jimmy Dean’s has a drive-thru, and he orders.  Then he is in the seat next to me, kissing me.  He tells me that he knows that I love him, and he loves me and why don’t I just marry him.  I say yes. 

Then the dream shifts to the two of us working a concert, whose I don’t know.  But the place is packed.  We are handing out programs, and he is on one level and I am on the one above.  Something told me in the dream to watch out, because there was going to be trouble.  Sure enough there is an active shooter.  All the people around me duck for cover, as do I.  But he ends up shooting several people, and he escapes.  I panic and run to the lower level to discover that my lover was one of the victims!!!  And Maxie Jones, from General Hospital, was his doctor😂🤣😅.  (Believe me, this character is NOT a doctor on the show!!) He was shot in the chest, and she was applying pressure to stop the bleeding.  I sat there and held his hand and kept telling him, through tears, to hold on.  I mean, it was something out of a soap opera.  Of course.  But he appeared to be dying.  He was not responsive, but after all my begging and pleading, (and Maxie’s brilliant work LOL), he squeezed my hand.  I was beyond overjoyed, screaming rapturously as he squeezed my hand over and over.  He was going to be okay.  Everyone around us applauded. 

Then fast forward to him leaving the hospital with me by his side.  He was leaning on me, but I think he was on crutches, too, which was also odd.  I mean, why not a wheelchair?  And we were walking.  But anyway, he said that God told him that I was supposed to take care of him and live with him and love him forever.  I said yeah, right.  And there was funny banter back and forth between us as we went along.  Then suddenly I was in front of this woman or man, I don’t remember which who said the strangest thing, that we are the exact same souls we both have always been through time, but just in different bodies during this lifetime.  Those were the words.  Then I wake up, pondering things …  

The next dream had me in an episode of Charlie’s Angels, which isn’t a shock.  I dream this all the time.  But what was strange was – well, let me tell you.  It is the Season 4 episode “Angels at the Altar,” yes with Shelley Hack, and of course Kim Cattrall of Sex and the City fame guest starring as Kelly Garrett’s best friend.  Well, the cast is there, including Bosley, and I guess I’m an honorary angel.  I remember Cheryl Ladd wanted to go swimming, and Shelley Hack and David Doyle were just kinda hanging out.  So, I started talking to my favorite angel, Jaclyn Smith.  The subject of pregnancy came up.  So, I brought up her son Gaston, and I said to her – wasn’t he born in 1979?  And she said no.  It was 1982. 

Toddler Gaston with mom, Jaclyn Smith

So, later when I was awake I realized it couldn’t have been 1979 since she was on the show at the time, and that would have been close to impossible.   So, I looked it up and sure enough, Gaston was born March 19 – in the year 1982!! I nearly fell out.  How could I have known that???? Insert Twilight Zone theme here …  

Gaston as an adult

I am just wondering what is going on in my mind to conjure up such fantastic and incredible dreams. Hmmm I think it bears closer examination down the road …

But at any rate, that is it for today, my friends. I do hope you enjoyed this.

By all means, if you have any thoughts on the above dreams, leave me a comment below. Also, tell me about your strange dreams.

And until the next time, and as always, please be mentally well!!!

DEREK’S DISCLAIMERI am not a medical professional, neither am I giving any medical or legal advice. If you are seeking help from a doctor or an attorney, please consult said professionals.  These are my personal thoughts and feelings on the subjects discussed, and my blog is my own personal experiences and journey with mental imbalance.  Thanking you in advance!

AFFILIATE DISCLAIMER:  I am now an Amazon Affiliate! So, there are products on this page.  By clicking on the links, you will be redirected to that page at no cost to you.  However, I will receive compensation if you purchase something (which I hope you do 😊).